Divorce - How You Can
Minimize the Effects on Children
By BizyMoms
(Publisher's Note: If you have recently gone through a divorce or are contemplating a divorce and are concerned about the effects your divorce will have on your children, the information in this article should be helpful to you.)
Divorce, it is a sad, end result. When parents decide to separate or divorce, at the time that this decision is made it is only the couple that is affected. Again, it is a decision that they make as mature adults due to various reasons, such as extra-marital relationships, incompatibility, finances or even personal or selfish reasons they might have. At this point they divorce for their personal reason or gain. The ones who suffer most in this equation are the children. Thus, it is important that every parent who decides to divorce make all endeavors to see that their children do not suffer in the process, and that these children are brought up in a manner so that their lives too are not ruined in the process.
Children are able to feel and know when their parents are going through issues in their lives. According to research a baby within a few week of birth is able to recognize the voice and tone of his/her parent. As such, when there is constant disharmony and disagreement in the home, it affects the child psychologically. This is the beginning of the behavioral changes in a child�s life. Therefore it is important, that parents discuss matters of great issue in privacy, so that your children are safe from undue pressure as a result of this.
It is advised that when parents decide on divorce, that they discuss this matter with the children, if the children are of an age they could understand. As children rebel and feel that they are not wanted when such things occur, and could find solace in ways that are not acceptable and could be detrimental to them. Once divorce is formalized, whether they are in sole custody of one parent or joint custody, always remember that your child needs both father and mother. Whatever difference of opinion you may have of each other, make sure that you do not talk negatively about your spouse with the children. You may not love each other, but the role of a parent or the love that a parent has for the child should not in any way be taken away.
Even though you are separated, for the sake of your child it is important that you continue to have little outings and get-togethers as a family. Do not bring a third party into this equation. It is very disheartening for a child, when she/he feels that there is another person taking the place of their mom or dad. Be sensitive to their feelings. Share your responsibilities as parents, and in every way possible manner try to minimize the effect that this decision has brought upon your children. Children are a blessing from above. Cherish and love them. And learn to see from your child�s eyes and not your own.
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